What to do when your partner is depressed

October 7, 2019

Depression can affect relationships. It’s an isolating illness that may leave a person feeling hopeless, helpless, and afraid.

If your loved one is suffering from depression, there are things you can do to support him/her:


  • Learn about depression


One of the most important things you can do is to learn about this illness.

Depression is not a static illness. Your loved one may have several good days followed by days of being significantly depressed. Depression has its ebbs and flows that may not be understood by those who don’t have it.

Common symptoms of depression include sleep disturbances, changes in eating patterns, feelings of sadness and hopelessness, anxiety or agitation, and loss of interest in normal activities and even in things one used to enjoy.


  • Create a supportive home environment


Being there for your partner and creating a safe place for him/her is another good way of helping him/her through this difficult time.

Depression can make it difficult for someone to make healthier choices, which only compounds your partner’s health problems.

To encourage food choices, involve your partner in planning and prepping. 

To boost his/her mood, you may also want to encourage physical activities. It doesn’t have to be in a gym. Simple activities like walking and cycling can make a difference in one’s mood.


  • Help reduce his/her stress level


Routine is very important for depressed individuals. It allows them to have control. 

Help create a less stressful environment by creating a schedule for his/her day-to-day activities, including meals, chores, and medications.


  • Encourage treatment


Depression seldom improves without treatment. 

You can help your partner by encouraging him/her to seek treatment and being there for him/her during those times.

If medications are not improving your partner’s symptoms, you can look at alternatives like TMS or transcranial magnetic stimulation.

It’s FDA-approved and minimally invasive procedure for mental health problems like depression.

NeurOasis offers this treatment. If you have questions about TMS, feel free to give us a call at (520) 338-2557.